What I’ve Learned After 15 Years of Marriage

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One of the miracles of life is the difference between a man and a woman. Why there are such massive differences is frustrating and fascinating. I’ve been married for 15 years to my woman. Only now do I sometimes feel like I understand her needs.

Some of the things I’ve learned:

  • Just being nice is a big deal.
  • Don’t listen to her and check my iphone at the same time.
  • Recognizing her beauty and telling her about it makes both of us happy.
  • Put my dirty clothing into the clothes hamper. Not next to it.
  • Letting go of small irritations is really hard but a good plan.
  • Always get her a birthday gift. (I only forgot once, but she’ll never forget)
  • Asking her opinion and not getting mad if I don’t like it is hard, but worth it.
  • Always love whatever she cooks.
  • Never try to make her understand something when I’m mad. Because taking back harsh words is almost impossible.
  • Take care of the yard. Just do it.
  • She’s delicate, be careful with her.
  • Make breakfast for the kids as often as possible. She loves that.
  • A nice surprise once in a while is important.
  • Be happy about picking out, loading on top of the car, cutting a piece off the bottom and putting up the Christmas tree.
  • Smile when I see her.
  • Help out around the house.
  • Buying new clothing for makes her giddy.
  • Buying new furniture for her makes her ecstatic.
  • Don’t go to sleep without telling her first.
  • Saying “I want to talk to you about something” gets her supreme attention.
  • Take out the trash without being asked.
  • Take in the trash bins.
  • Never complain about “girls night out”. It’s not worth it.
  • She likes going on a date with me. She really likes when I have a plan for our date.
  • Don’t complain about the cost of a great meal on the date.
  • Let her decorate as much as she wants for the holidays.
  • Just accept the flowers in my bedroom. It’s not my bedroom anyways. I just sleep there.
  • Be happy about extended family activities.
  • Girls just wanna’ have fun.
  • I still have so much to learn.

I’m lucky to have Samantha in my life. It’s awesome.

-I took this photo when I was experimenting with Ilford 3200 speed 35mm film. It’s great stuff.


  1. You’ve got some excellent fundamentals there. I wonder what else you’ll be able to say you’ve learned after the next 15 years!

  2. Hey so this just reminded me, you asked me where I get my film developed? I get it done @ Allens in the valley…they are wretched. I only use them because it’s all I can afford for now.

    Look up Richard’s Photo Lab. I hear they are the best of the best!!!!

  3. i love your sam posts! it’s obvious how much you adore her. i want to send this post to nate as a hint on what women love. :) we’ve only been together 6 years and it would be nice if he could learn all those things before 15 years! thanks jon!

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